Under the thumb and proud of it?

According to a reliable source (no names will be mentioned as it may compromise his position) but all Asian men live in fear.

Of what you ponder, losing their job, someone with a flashier car moving onto the close, or that spider you thought was definitely obliterated coming back to get his vengeance when you least expect it!

Well the answer is none of the above; men live in fear of, wait for it . . . their WIVES!

Apparently amongst men this is a well-known fact, something that is not spoken of but is a reality they have accepted.

This reality as I am told, goes back a long way starting with their mothers.

From a very young age Abdul spies from between the security bars of his playpen, father with the look of sheer terror in his eyes as his wife comes down on him like what can only be described as a Rhinoceros with two left feet.

Through his childhood Abdul witnesses time and time again his father being over ruled, controlled and put in his place. There is a degree of confusion as to why does Dad not defend himself?

At the age of thirteen Abdul wakes to find a changed atmosphere in the home. You see the pieces on the chessboard have altered and mother now has two pawns in her control Father and ABDUL!

From this day on his every move, action, decision even the morsel of food that passes his lips will be controlled by his mother!

Father can now take a breather as the dominance of mother goose is divided between the two males. Abdul is being prepared almost subconsciously taught as to how things will be. He knows now why father never attempted to defend himself.

On the day of Abduls wedding mother will hang up the gloves and they will then be picked up and worn by his wife!!

Something he has come to realise and accept, as the way of the world in the Asian society is such, although men are seen as the king of the castle it is the Queen who indeed reigns supreme!!

Before we begin to accept this as a phenomena that only affects the Asian society I would say remember Ronnie Corbett in the programme Sorry, a forty plus male living, or should that be existing, under the wing of his mother and what about Hyacinth Bucket from Keeping Up Appearances who controls and dominates her husband.

The most famous case would have to be Dennis Thatcher and Margaret Thatcher! Point being this is something that crosses over all cultural and religious barriers.

If we are agreeing this to be a fact then should we stop targeting the women as being the provocateur and take it from a contrasting angle and pose the question Why are all men hen pecked?

Are they incapable of successfully going through life without the guidance of a wise woman?

Maybe the dominance women inflict on men is a form of frustration displacement as they are still looked upon as being second-rate citizens. The truth is, as we all know that for a man to succeed at anything he chooses to undertake he will need the absolute support of a woman whether that is something as trivial as the decision of which tie goes best with that particular shirt or as crucial as running the country! Another angle is maybe the men enjoy it as they are reminded of their childhood where mother always had a clean handkerchief to hand when your nosey needed wiping!

To have a strong woman by your side means that all decisions will be undertaken by her which then means you can without any anxiety watch the Laurel and Hardy film you recorded and keel over in uncontrollable side splitting laughter!

Women are accused of treating their men like children but maybe that is because men have never produced any evidence of maturity to exist successfully in the World of adulthood!

This is an argument that will obviously continue but maybe its high time men realised we are doing them a favour by thinking, acting and decision-making on their behalf.

Stop winging and accept it to be a reality after all we are the SUPERIOR SEX!!