DEAR Massi, I was going out with this girl for three years and everything was going fine until one day she just wanted to end everything.

She told me 'we were two different people' and we should give it a break for a while. I was disappointed but that's life I thought. It wasn't until a week later I realised I had been made a fool of. One of my friends told me she was always with my best friend. I thought nothing of it but more and more things began coming out.

It turned out both of them had been seeing each other for a couple of months. When I finally confronted them both they admitted everything. There wasn't much I could do but walk away. The advice I would give anyone in this situation.

During this time her sister became a good friend of mine and we both started to spend a lot of time together. After a while we were more or less an item. But I never told her about my history. She never asked I guess.

I feel really bad every day I think about it now and want to know whether I should tell her but I am certain she will get angry and leave me.

Once I was ready to tell her but I just couldn't. It's breaking me up inside.

My ex-girlfriend doesn't know about it either because I told my current one to keep it a secret. I know it might sound a bit confusing to you.

H R H

Manchester

Massi Says,

You certainly made a grave error by not telling her about your history.

If it was something small I feel she have forgiven you but something like this is obviously going to hurt her.

I suggest you tell her as soon as can because the longer this goes on the more pain and hurt it is going to cause her. If you were in her postition wouldn't you want to know the truth?

What if she finds about this through someone else? I think it is your duty to tell her everything.

Your ex-girlfriend isn't going to be too pleased either, is she?

It is also hurting you inside because you care for this person. If you do care so much you have to tell her about the truth and what happened to you in the past. But one word of warning. The situation you have got yourself into means you will be the reason for arguments and animosity between two sisters.

It will probably mean you having to walk away from like you did in the past. But if you are a gentleman and have any ounce of dignity and respect in you it may well be the best thing to do.

You may have a deep feeling of resentment towards your ex-girlfriend which is stopping you from telling her sister the truth. Because you were treated badly by your ex you may feel vengeful. This is wrong and deep down I think you know it too.

Your current girlfriend hasn't done anything wrong and she doesn't deserve to be treated badly.