DEAR Massi, I have recently finished a four year relationship with a young man.

We had something special for a time and we were about to get married. But a month ago he told me he was going to get married to someone else and it was time we called it a day.

I thought everything was going so well and now I can't stop thinking about him.

I have tried to ring him on numerous occasions but he never picks up the phone or it switches off.

It was the manner with which we broke up that has made me so angry. He just told me one day he wanted to marry someone else. Someone his dad had chosen for him.

I can't understand how he could do this me. I have talked to my friends but it just seems to get worse day by day. It makes me feel worthless and hurt.

N Burnley

Massi Says,

It is always hard when you break up but like you said the manner in which you broke up must have been harder for you.

If he just got up and left it's made one thing clear - that he didn't have any intention of marrying you. It's hard to accept but the sooner you do the better you will feel in the long-term. If you think he's coming back - try not to. Men like that don't deserve a second chance.

What if does the same thing again? It's better you've found out his real feelings towards you before you got married, don't you think?

You will be upset but I'm sure you are strong enough and confident enough to find someone else. One thing you shouldn't do is contact him. That's only going to boost his ego even further.

A good friend once told me: 'Many hearts are broken but they always heal...eventually'