DEAR Massi, I have always been very religious minded. So when I got married I thought my husband would also think the same as I did.

I pray regularly and have never missed a fast as far back as I can remember. However, my husband is not like me at all. We have been married just over three years and we are both in our twenties. Last year during Ramadan he did not fast at all, despite me telling him he should. It was the same story the year before.

I feel this is having a negative effect on our marriage because we always end up arguing. I've even had a word with his family and that does not seemd to have worked. He has told me not to speak to them again about the issue.

This year I know things are going to be the same. I feel let down by him and sometimes wish I'd never got married to him at all. My religion is important to me and I don't think I should be with a person who doesn't have the same outlook in life as myself.

He makes silly excuses all the time and it's really frustrating. I feel as if it's my fault too.

We have a one-year old child and I want to set her a good example. But my husband is going to make it difficult in the future if he doesn't take his religious duties seriously. Massi, I just want to know what I can do. It's really getting me down and I feel so angry with him sometimes.

SB Bolton

Massi says,

This is obviously getting you down but first of all you shouldn't blame yourself. I know it can be frustrating especially during Ramadan.

But if your husband is not taking his religious duites seriously then it is HIS problem and he will answer to it. All you can do as a wife is continue to show him the right path. If he chooses not to follow your good example then all you can do is carry on.

Your husband though should know better and I'm sure he must feel some guilt when his wife tells him to pray or even even keep a fast.

I know it is a frustrating experience but you must remember you are not alone. Recently, I have recieved quite a few letters regarding this subject.

Also, you didn't say in you letter whether your partner is a good husband in other areas in your relationship.

If he is I suggest you don't give up on him and he will change his ways.