I HAVE never been someone who is interested in other people's affairs but I have become more and more worried about the relationship my friend is having with this guy.

I don't trust him and I feel he is not good enough for her. He uses her all the time and is always asking for money. She ends up buying him presents every so often and I have never seen him give her anything in return. All right...he has a car but often she ends up putting petrol in for him.

The strange thing is he has money but instead of being a gentleman he just lets her pay for everything and remarkably she does it.

I've mentioned it to her once or twice and she just says...it doesn't matter.

I've mentioned it to her sister but it hasn't made any difference.

Sometimes if his friends phone him he just drops her and goes off. I just think she is far too good for him.

I have remained silent on the issue so far but I have recently found out he might be cheating on her. I can't be sure though.

I don't know how I should go about telling her or how I can make her understand.

BK

Manchester

MASSI SAYS,

It's very difficult being a really good friend and it is obvious you care for her.

But in all honesty if she hasn't listened to any of your warnings in the past she's unlikely to listen to you now. If you continue to say how much you dislike her fella she might think that you are trying to break them up and that could cause problems between you.

In your letter you say you are not sure about him cheating on your friend. How certain are you that this information is true?

Can you really risk hurting your friend and her relationship based on a flimsy story? If you find anything that proves he's cheating, that's different but, in the meantime, please think carefully before taking this any further.

I think your friend will realise herself what a fool she has been but I don't think you can blame her....because some people are very good at persuading others to give all the time whilst never never returning the kindness.

If what you say is true then your friend's boyfriend seems like typical loser who takes advantage of people's generosity...and will get his comeuppance.