When I married my husband he did not have a weight problem and took his looks very seriously.

However, over the past six years he has put on so much weight. He can't even go upstairs now without getting tired. He used to care about his looks and always played football regularly.

Now, he doesn't exercise at all and makes up any old excuse so he doesn't have to walk anywhere. Even when I ask him to go around the corner to the shops he always hops into his car. He used love going out for walks and was always against people who drove everywhere all the time.

His friends have even started calling him 'motu' and I feel so angry because he was always better looking than all of them. I know it's not nice for anyone to make fun of his weight.

What's more, I don't think I find him attractive anymore. I feel so guilty about this but I can't help it.

He's changed a lot and he's not the man I married. I don't think I can keep up this pretence much longer though.

GH

Bolton

MASSI SAYS,

It is very hard to tell someone they are fat...especially if they are a loved one. That said, I don't think you can afford to put this off much longer.

If your husband gets tired just walking a short distance then there is every chance that his health is already suffering and he probably needs a medical check-up. Rather than dwell on the fact that you find it hard to respond to him, I think your first approach should be that you are concerned for his health.

Encourage him to diet and start exercising. If it helps, offer to exercise with him.