I TOTALLY agree with everything Susan Watkinson said (Letters, September 23) in response to criticism of people who put windmills, toys etc on children's graves at Pleasington Cemetery in Blackburn.

How could anyone with any feeling begrudge these people for mourning such a great loss as that of losing a child in the way that they wish to?

I lost my husband a month ago and purchased an ashes plot at Pleasington Cemetery. When I applied to the council to erect a gravestone, I was amazed that we were not allowed to place any edging stones around the grave.

They have more important things to be concerned with. Pleasington is a lovely cemetery and people who go there to tend their loved ones' graves should be left to grieve in peace instead of wondering whether their graves are intact or if the council have taken it upon themselves to remove the edgings.

People I speak to when visiting the cemetery feel very strongly about this. And I think the council will have a fight on their hands if they decide to go down that road.

In my opinion, the children's plots are beautiful and I find them very touching.

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