I have managed to get myself into a hopeless situation. I was married to a woman from abroad five years ago. However, during that time I was also going out with a girl from here.

We were very much in love but when my wife came over we seperated. Three years into my marriage I started seeing my ex-girlfriend again and we have become so much closer than before. I know it is wrong but we couldn't help it.

I have made my girlfrind pregnant now. I don't know what to do and feel torn between my home life and the woman I love. I haven't told my wife and nobody knows. My girlfriend wants to keep the child as do I. I guess I love my girlfriend more than I ever did before in my life.

I already have three children. Every way I look at it I lose.

P

Bolton

MASSI SAYS,

This is indeed a complex situation you have got yourself into. Seen as you are married your first responsibility is to your wife and your children. However, that does not mean you can just walk away from your girlfriend and your new found responsibility to her. I'm sure you have you thought about telling your wife about your girlfriend. This may be your one course of action as it may avoid you having to live a lie for years to come. How do you think she will feel when she eventually finds out, which I'm sure she will.

By the tone of the letter it seems you have already made your mind up about your girlfriend. You love her but whilst she may be happy to carry on in this situation for a while will she not one day ask you to make a decision.

Either way you look at it the truth needs to come out, however hard it may seem.