I recently got introduced to a very nice man. A friend of mine got us together.

We hit it off straight away but things have taken a turn for the worse. I have just found he is already married to someone from abroad. He admitted it after I confronted him.

I found out when someone in his family told me. I feel like I have been used.

He said he was married over a year ago and he has never met his wife. He said it was all done over the phone and he did it to make his parents happy. I don't know what to believe anymore.

The friend who introduced us says she never knew he was married.

Despite this news I still want to be with him, and to get married to him.

H Blackburn

MASSI SAYS,

I think you want me tell you that it is OK to continue seeing this person. Unfortunately I can't do that. Unless of course he divorces his first wife.

In such cases I must be brutally honest.

If he loves you enough then he will do that but I can understand the predicament HE must be in right now.

He has his parents you and the first wife all asking for a part of him.

If you continue seeing this man then you must realise that you may never be able to marry him.

What you must also ask yourself is whether he was willing to tell you about his first marriage? If you didn't find out would he have told you?