DEAR MASSI,

I am concerned about my friend; she has been using cannabis for a long while now, but recently has been hanging out with a new group of friends and has started using stronger drugs. How can I help her?

MASSI SAYS,

Some important things need to be clarified before I respond to your question.

Firstly have you talked to your friend about your concerns? If so does she share your concerns? If you have not raised the issue with your friend do you intend to do so? What do you think their response may be, anger, denial, confusion or relief that someone has recognised that they may need help?

It is important to acknowledge that people usually only use helping services when they think the time is right for them. If your friend does not think their use of drugs is a problem but rather sees it as a form of relaxation or pleasure, they are unlikely to respond to help because you say they should.

If on the other hand your friend thinks they are getting in too deep they may welcome your concern.

You need to approach the subject sensitively think about the time the place and how you are going to bring up the issue of drug use.

If your friend does want help you could encourage her to contact Lifeline 01254 677493 where she can get free, confidential, help, advice and information without even giving her name.

You could also accompany your friend on a visit to a helping organisation.

However if they do not see it as a problem where does that leave your friendship?

Will you stand by them whatever happens or will you consider their drug use too much of a strain on your relationship? Only you will have the answer to these questions.

Finally it is worth remembering that helping services are not just for drug users but friends and family too. If you feel you need someone to talk to about these issues it may be worth ringing Frank National Drugs Helpline 0800 77 66 00 to ask were the nearest friends and family support group is.

Sometimes the best you can do in situations like this is to cope and be there for friends when they need you.

(Response by LIFELINE EAST LANCASHIRE)