DEAR MASSI

I was going out with this girl for three years and everything was going fine until one day she just wanted to end everything.

I was disappointed but just by chance when I managed to read some of her text messages. I realised I had been made a fool of.

It turned out she had been seeing this other guy for a couple of months. When I finally confronted her she admitted everything. There wasn't much I could do but walk away.

During this time her sister became a good friend of mine and we both started to spend a lot of time together. After a while we were more or less an item. But I never told her about my history.

I feel really bad every day I think about it now and want to know whether I should tell her but I am certain she will get angry and leave me. Once I was ready to tell her but I just couldn't. It's breaking me up inside.

My ex-girlfriend doesn't know about it either because I have told her sister to keep it a secret. It's confusing I know.

CB Manchester

MASSI SAYS,

You certainly made a grave error by not telling her about your history.

If it was something small I feel she would have forgiven you but something like this is obviously going to hurt her.

I suggest you tell her as soon as you can because the longer this goes on the more pain and hurt it is going to cause her. If you were in her postition wouldn't you want to know the truth?

What if she finds about this through someone else? I think it is your duty to tell her everything.

Your ex-girlfriend isn't going to be too pleased either, is she?

It is also hurting you inside because you care for this person. If you do care so much you have to tell her about the truth and what happened to you in the past. But one word of warning. The situation you have got yourself into means you will be the reason for arguments and animosity between two sisters.

It will probably mean you having to walk away from it all like you did in the past. But if you are a gentleman and have any ounce of dignity and respect in you it may well be the best thing to do.

Your current girlfriend hasn't done anything wrong and she doesn't deserve to be treated badly.