The weeks are certainly beginning to fly by this year. We’ve already had two big events in the mental health calendar, and today is Valentine’s Day.

This time last year I was offering tips on how to maintain a mentally healthy relationship, once the first flushes of love settle down, and day-to-day life takes its toll.

A big part of being mentally healthy is having the ability not just to form and maintain relationships, but also having the ability to end them, when appropriate. So, this week’s column is dedicated to anyone who has found themselves on their own today, either by choice or otherwise.

Relationships can fail for many reasons, sometimes they have just run their course, other times one partner has crossed a red line where boundaries are concerned, shattering trust and leaving the relationship broken. When relationships end by mutual agreement, then both parties tend to be able to move on quickly.

When one partner wants to finish a relationship and the other doesn’t, then the remaining person may have all types of unanswered questions or may blame themselves unfairly. They may even become pre-occupied with thoughts about the relationship, and where it went wrong, finding it difficult to get on with day-to-day events, or regular routines. In extreme cases it may even lead to someone developing obsessive behaviour, resulting in stalking of, or harm to, the previous partner. Thankfully such cases are rare.

Valentine’s Day is all about love, and that includes loving yourself. So, if you are on your own today, why not try practising some self-love. Here are a few tips:

1. Blast your favourite tunes and let loose! Dancing is a great way to boost your mood and release endorphins.

2. Reflect on things you're grateful for in your life, big or small, and write them down. This can shift your perspective and boost your happiness.

3. Today could be a great day to catch-up with some you have been meaning to call or text for ages. Share a funny story or simply get in touch.

4. Treat yourself to something you've been wanting, even if it's small. It's a reminder that you deserve nice things.

5. If you find yourself scrolling aimlessly, turn off your phone and social media for a few hours. This can help reduce stress and allow you to focus on yourself.

Whatever you decide to do, if you are on your own, make today all about you, you deserve it.

* Martin Furber is a therapist qualified in various modalities and an Instructor Member of Mental Health First Aid England. E-mail wellbeing@martinfurber.com